MANAGEMENT OF SEXUAL ENERGY

UNIVERSALITY OF THE NEED FOR SEX

Right from the moment God created man, the need to procreate and fill the earth was inherent. Genesis 1:27-28 says “So God created man in His own image; He created him in the image of God; He created them male and female. God blessed them, and God said to them, 'Be fruitful, multiply, fill the earth...’” (emphasis added) and so everyone is born with the drive to have sex. 

ADAPTABILITY TO ETHICS

With the drive to have sex, came the need for control. As man is a highly intelligent and civilized being, we can not afford to run around having sex like animals. Therefore, rules guiding this were derived from various religions such as the need for consent between the two individuals before they can have sex, gradually some of the rules were codified and made into laws with certain variations depending on the country or region. For example, only some regions regard adultery as a crime while others regard it as a question of morality but not something punishable by law. 

UNHOLY AND UNNATURAL SEXUAL ACTS CONDEMNED

1 Corinthians 6:18 “Flee from sexual immorality!...”

1 Corinthians 6:9-10 “...Do not be deceived: no sexually immoral people, idolaters, adulterers, male prostitutes, homosexuals...will inherit God's kingdom” (emphasis added)

Romans 1:21,26-27  “For though they knew God, they did not glorify Him as God or show gratitude. Instead, their thinking became nonsense, and their senseless minds were darkened... This is why God delivered them over to degrading passions. For even their females exchanged natural sexual intercourse for what is unnatural. The males in the same way also left natural sexual intercourse with females and were inflamed with their lust for one another. Males committed shameless acts with males...” (emphasis added)

Leviticus 18:22 “You are not to sleep with a man as with a woman; it is detestable”

Exodus 20:14 “Do not commit adultery”

Leviticus 18:23 “You are not to have sexual intercourse with any animal, defiling yourself with it...”

Fornication; Fornication is consensual sexual intercourse between a male and female who are not married

Adultery; Adultery is consensual sexual intercourse between a married man and a woman who is not his wife or between a married woman and a man who is not her husband. 

Rape; Rape is sexual intercourse in which one party either does not consent to the act or is an underage person (below 18). In the first instance, it involves the other party forcing the non-consenting party to have sex with him/her. While in the second instance, it involves the other party having sexual intercourse with a minor even if the minor consented to it.

Masturbation; This is an aberration of how God intended sex to be. Here, a person stimulates himself/herself sexually either by manipulating his/her sexual organs with his/her fingers, or with the aid of sex toys.

Non-natural sex—same sex; Another aberration of what God originally intended sex to be. Here, a man finds himself sexually attracted to another man or a woman finds herself sexually attracted to another woman and they engage in sexual intercourse. 

Sex with objects (sex toys); God intended a man to satisfy a woman sexually and vice versa. The man's body was created to bring pleasure to the woman and vice versa. And God saw that it was good. As such, there is no need for foreign objects to be used either as a replacement or as an aid to providing sexual pleasure. It is like saying “we’re not enough for each other and so we need help”.

Sex with animals; Another aberration, where a human being, either male or female engages in sexual intercourse with an animal such as a goat, dog, etc.

Phone sex; With the coming of technology came more ways to distort sex. Phone sex includes having conversations over the phone targeted at arousing; sexting which is sending texts or chatting with sexually arousing words; video sex which is people exposing naked body parts to others on video call such as Skype, FaceTime or WhatsApp video call; and sending and/or receiving nudes (naked pictures).

Pornography; This involves visual arousal. That is, deriving sexual pleasure from the watching of videos of people having sex.

Threesome/Foursome/Orgy; These are all types of group sex—threesome involves 3 people having sex at the same time, foursome involves 4 people having sex together and an orgy can have as many people as possible engaged in various forms of intercourse with each other at the same time. These are all unnatural and disgusting in the sight of God.

HOW CAN YOU CONVERT SEXUAL ENERGY TO WEALTH?

You will need to learn to channel your thoughts towards positive and productive alternatives, especially if you are unmarried. For the married, of course sex is a very important part of a marriage and there is nothing wrong in regularly having intercourse with your spouse.

Whenever you find yourself dwelling on sexual thoughts, you replace them. The mind cannot be totally free of thoughts so if you want to get rid of a thought, you must replace it with something else. Spend less time dwelling on sex and channel that energy to something productive—think of new strategies to expand your business, new or improved products or services to offer, ways to expand your clientele, ways to proffer solutions to specific problems, better ways to ensure more output from your employees, begin to research on more business ideas, write, make plans for your future. 

Replace unhealthy habits that fuel your sexual desire, with healthy ones. For instance, instead of spending a certain period of the day watching or reading pornographic material, spend time with books on business, grammar, networking, and of course the Bible. 

I must comment here that the Bible is the most powerful replacement for unholy sexual thoughts. Use the opportunity to build yourself spiritually by studying the Word of God. When your mind is infused with the Word, you won’t be able to dwell on unclean thoughts.

Replace time spent on the internet or television watching sexual shows, with exercise, to keep your body fit and healthy. Get rid of that expanding waistline or the double chin or the flabby thighs. Remember, health is wealth.

Use those moments spent dwelling on sex to improve yourself. 

CONCLUSION

God has blessed us with sex drive to use only when the time is right and in a way that pleases Him. Misusing it will amount to sin. Don’t convert equity to iniquity.

All Scripture quotations are taken from the Holman Christian Standard Bible®, Copyright © 1999, 2000, 2002, 2003 by Holman Bible Publishers. Used by permission. Holman Christian Standard Bible®, Holman CSB®, and HCSB® are federally registered trademarks of Holman Bible Publishers.