MY WIFE AS MY GIRLFRIEND

I always wondered while growing up why men cherish their girlfriends very well even up to the point of sometimes killing or getting killed for them, but go as bad as beating these girlfriends when they get married to them and are now their wives. I therefore began to study the differences between a wife and a girlfriend, and I realised certain things. A girlfriend usually projects a noble image, which may be real or just an act (but if cultivated can be sustained). I discovered that one of the keys to ensuring that your wife keeps this attribute even in marriage, is to stimulate it the way you did when you were the boyfriend. This stimulation begins by deliberately engineering your mind to think like this and making vocalizations of reassurance to your wife. 

I will go further to list certain cherished manners of a good girl that I believe must be honoured and amplified by her boy. I do this and bliss is the rule in my home.

A good girl believes in God, a good girl is loyal and honest, she keeps her boy's secrets secret, she does not emphasize his failures. She is not only nice to him but also nice to those he holds in high regard. She is happy when others achieve something, she is determined, her boy remains the best to her, she says "sorry" at the right time, she is open and honest with her feelings, she does not pretend just to please her boy, her boy feels free in her arms, she has a proportionate combination of beauty and intelligence (I must comment here that beauty is relative, what should matter here is that her boy finds her beautiful or attractive and not what others think or say). She can make her boy laugh even when he is sad, she corrects his bad manners, she does not need reasons to love him (does not struggle to love him but loves him the way he is), she displays her boy on her social media and boldly tells her family and friends about him. She easily forgets his errors, she believes her boy does not have limits or boundaries in possibilities, she creates time for her boy's other interests even though she does not share them, she takes care of her boy the way the mother of a two month old baby will care for the child. She always gives her boy a second chance, she respects her boy the way a four year old respects his father, she is not worried when she sees other girls around her boy (she is confident in her boy's love for her), she is not extravagant with money, she limits the house expenditure to the lowest while still ensuring that the home is comfortable, she is a great home manager, she loves children, she has a clear dream of her future, she should know how to delay gratification, her armpits and underwears are clean, she knows how to rest/relax, she is thankful for even trivial things, she looks for the angel in every situation by learning something positive from every experience whether good or bad, she is emotionally energetic and rich, she drives her boy to victory, she joins her boy in evangelism, she handles criticism well, she is strategic in working out a problem.

Having reached this conclusion, I made up my mind to treat my wife as my girlfriend forever. Many people are always amazed at how excited we always are when we are together.

I treat every day with her as a new date. I call her "my friend" and she calls me "daddy". We rehearse our ideal future together daily by turning a blind eye to any present unpleasant situation we are facing, fantasizing about the future we pray for and deliberating on how to get there. Before we even had children, we referred to them as if we already had them, we named our babies before conception and we pay tithe on money we hope to get.

We work with imagination rather than knowledge. We acted like millionaires before we became millionaires. Now, we see ourselves as billionaires and we are simply asking God "where are our billion dollars?"

We eat the Word of God like Christmas rice, each of us highly interested and invested in the spiritual growth of the other.

Every sexual intercourse is as exciting, blissful and as thrilling as the first one was.

As a result of how close we are, we are so in sync that she often predicts the next word from my mouth or my next action. She also picks out my outfits.

Happy birthday my best Human and wife, Gloria Adejoh Musa.