A person's outlook to life is wholly dependent on that person. A popular saying tells about a bottle which can either be seen as half empty by a person or half full. That about sums it up.
Someone sees stumbling blocks, another sees stepping stones; someone sees a mountain too high to climb, another sees a way around it; someone sees a problem, another sees an opportunity to provide solutions.
Many people have often commented that I am too happy for my age, and that I smile and laugh often. This attitude only came about because I have come to understand certain simple but important things which have guided me to my destination of laughter.
In life I have faced challenges but I have learnt that rather than seeing them as burdens to pull me down, rather they are weights meant to train me for greater things ahead. Psalm 144:1 HCSB says “May the Lord my rock be praised, who trains my hands for battles and my fingers for warfare”. Once you realize that challenges and difficulties are to toughen you and make you more capable, you will smile through them all.
I have also learnt in life that unforgiveness is a dark pit. A person who does not forgive or finds it very difficult to forgive, will simply keep wallowing in that pit alone, and what’s more? Unhappiness and unforgiveness are the best of friends. If you don’t forgive, you will be unhappy. Having understood this, I made up my mind to forgive in advance. Before anyone even offends me, I have forgiven. It may be surprising to some that this principle is contained in the Lord’s Prayer. Many of us learnt it while growing up and we know the words by heart but fail to take out time to understand their implication. Matthew 6:12 NMB says “And forgive us our trespasses as we forgive them that trespass against us” This verse is futuristic meaning you do not need to wait until you are offended before deciding to forgive. The verse is saying even before you are offended, you have already forgiven. A life of conscious and constant forgiveness is a happy life. Armed with this knowledge, I find myself going through the day fortified with an impenetrable armour of happiness. Because I have forgiven in advance, no matter the offenses that come my way, they easily slide off my armour.
Closely linked with unforgiveness is anger. In fact, it can be said that anger is fuelled by unforgiveness. Anger is a great enemy. It was what led to the first instance of the grave crime of murder. Genesis 4:5 tells us how angry Cain was and this eventually led to him killing Abel in verse 8. From this, I derived that an angry person is a person capable of committing murder at that instance. I also understood that anger is a great destroyer, people usually regret many things done as a result of anger. Anger clouds a person’s judgment, at that point a person may think that he/she is taking the right decision but once it fades away, it most times leaves sorrow in its wake. When you deliberately decide not to be given to anger, you live a happy life.
Another dimension to my unending happiness is how I handle money and loss. As painful as it can be to lose something you have worked for to either a debtor that blatantly refuses to repay money borrowed from you, or a dishonest person who cheats you, I decided to look at it from a different angle. And so I began to treat any money lost to people as money given to them by me. I no longer regard it as a loss but rather as a gift. The idea is that I see it as a furtherance of God’s directive to give. With this approach, the pain recedes and I continue life with my happiness intact.
Yet another principle of mine is that I practise laughter as an element of good health. I believe that laughter is an underrated “drug”. Due to how simple it sounds, the tendency is for people to overlook it. But it has been proven that laughter is highly beneficial to a person’s well being, this is why we are encouraged to smile and laugh more. Constant laughter breeds good health. It is not even a complex link—it is very difficult to laugh easily if you are carrying so much anger, unforgiveness, regret and sadness, these only serve as stones tied around your neck with no relief in view. But without these things, you find yourself laughing through life.
Many are the afflictions of the righteous: but the LORD delivereth him out of them all. Psalm 34:19 KJV. I am constantly happy because I know that I have God. Whatever situation I find myself in, whatever problems arise. No matter how large they may seem to me, I have the confidence that God will deliver me out of them all. He said it in His Word and I believe it. Many people have the wrong belief that because they are Christians, they ought not to face any problems, life should just be easy breezy. And so when problems come, they begin to grumble, wondering why they are having problems. However, there was never a point in time where God said a believer will live a life free of challenges. Challenges will definitely come up, problems will always come up but God has promised that through them all, we will emerge on top. Jeremiah 29:11 KJV says “For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the LORD, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end.” With the assurance that my end will be great, I proceed to go through whatever God allows to come my way, with smiles.
Guided by these principles, I have been able to cultivate a lifestyle of permanent, unshakeable and untainted happiness.